Sexual orientation as something one is born with V.S something that develops over time

 

It is more liberating to consider that sexual orientation is something that one is born with, 

because after all, our chromosomes have decided from birth, what sex we are going to be and 

which gender we are as well. This includes what our sexual preferences are going to be when we 

become older and well into our youthful years. Sex is something that is decided from birth by the 

chromosomal combinations for everyone, this is including those who are born in a male body but 

have the mindset of a woman, and those who are born in a female body but have the mindset of a 

man. It’s not the body that dictates how someone should act and how they should think and who 

they should feel attracted to, it is the chromosomes and the hormones. You can’t be a female and 

develop feelings towards other women, they’re already there. It’s just a matter of time before 

you discover it (and vice versa for men). I don’t believe that anyone has ever heard of someone 

who has said that “Well I’m a guy and I used to really like girls, but then one day, I saw this 

other guy. And I just knew I was in love,” (except for bisexuals). 

On another note, unless there is evidence of some kind of chemical or pollutant present in 

the atmosphere that may hinder with one’s hormones and cause them to go from being attracted 

to the opposite sex to the same sex-- it may not as satisfactory or believable to say that sexual 

orientation is something one develops over time. If such a thing were the case, then all of the 

transgender and gender queer would have to have been exposed to this, and it would also mean 

other around them were exposed, which in this case, an entire nation would be of this sexual 

orientation. But that is not the case, gender queer and transgenders are spread out throughout the 

world in different countries, different cultures, regions, religions, and it is not something that 

could be developed overtime due to social influences or pollutant exposure. One is born into 

their sexual orientation and it is simply a matter of maturation period before we begin to realize 

what our true preferences are. One cannot be forced to change from liking males to suddenly 

only liking males, even if societal influences demanded so, for whatever reason. Nothing beats 

what nature has originally intended. In other words, you can’t force a female (whether that be a 

man who identifies as a female or an actual physical female) to like male activities and only want 

to wear men’s clothing, unless this is what they prefer, because in the end they will naturally go 

back to the habits and thinking patterns that feel natural the most.