Social Construction

 

    Social construction theses on sex gender, womanhood, manhood, femininity and masculinity 

are fine when they’re used in limits and moderation. For example, we all know women are for 

giving children birth and knowing how to cook, and men are for going out to work to earn a daily 

living to take care of the family, and be the protector of the family. This is in moderation because 

as a society and as individuals we can accept that these are our natural human roles as assigned 

by nature. But it gets out of hand and becomes over the top when a construct thesis starts to 

imply that women are only meant to be in the kitchen, or these days now with extreme feminism, 

that women can be their own man, if you’re a working woman you don’t need a man. These 

theses are extreme and misleading because it makes a particular gender think that they can’t have 

the best of both worlds (working independence and a providing partner), you must either be a 

completely fragile flower or you have to be a woman who acts like a man because she wants to 

do her own thing. 

For men, social constructs seem to be insinuating that if a woman is financially 

independent that means they have to make her pay 50/50, otherwise she’s a gold digger if she 

only wants you to spend and won’t spend her money. But a man can’t be a man if he’s not 

financially providing on some level, even if the woman is stable on her own. If a man is viewed 

in socially constructed theses as one who earns, has a family, may be assertive in some 

situations, that is normal. A man who does all these things but also allows his partner to work 

and earn, and discusses issues rather than arguing and causing violence, and listens to his partner 

is also normal. But some skewed constructs portray the latter as the man being too feminine or 

soft. However this is not true. 

From what society has recently been normalizing between how a masculine man should 

be and how a feminine woman should be, our society has quite frankly become lost in 

translation. No one understands exactly what is normal now and what isn’t. Is going 50/50 in a 

relationship normal or are more men starting to take advantage of women emotionally and 

demand 50/50? To be clear this concept of going half and half is where the woman and man split 

everything from dinner bills to house bills to shopping and working and providing.this is harmful 

to society because if a man doesn’t have to put in this much effort anymore, he’s less inclined to 

properly pursue a female and treat her with due respect. Socially constructed theses on how each 

gender should act is fine when the basics are being discussed in a healthy manner, but when it 

gets to the point where the genders and sexes are turning against each other and competing with 

each other, marriage and reproduction and relationships become a nightmare to even consider.